"How did you know you were going to marry this person" was the ice breaker question during PJ and my pre-cana session at our church today.
Noticing the room was a little stuffy with all of our discomfort, not knowing each other but yet being asked something more intimate than you would share otherwise, PJ said, "Trial and error."
Everyone laughed. We needed that. He's good at that.
The five hour session slipped by rather quickly for me, though I can only speak for myself, and I found it reassuring that PJ and I had already talked extensively about most all of the topics covered.
I used to be really intimidated by marriage, not sure if it was for me, if I was up to the task. The responsibility of another person's happiness and vice versa made me skeptical. My views were rather apparent, most notably on a school field trip when I announced them. A teacher, who had recently proposed to another teacher in our school asked us students sitting at the front (is it surprising that you could always find me towards the front of the bus?) , "What do you guys think about marriage, is it a good idea?" -- I think he was more or less being silly, looking for our excitement and encouragement. Everyone supplied that but me, who stated that I didn't believe in it. At least not for myself. Seems like a bad idea.
Someone got through my wall.
And now, the scary part is thinking about life without him.
Noticing the room was a little stuffy with all of our discomfort, not knowing each other but yet being asked something more intimate than you would share otherwise, PJ said, "Trial and error."
Everyone laughed. We needed that. He's good at that.
The five hour session slipped by rather quickly for me, though I can only speak for myself, and I found it reassuring that PJ and I had already talked extensively about most all of the topics covered.
I used to be really intimidated by marriage, not sure if it was for me, if I was up to the task. The responsibility of another person's happiness and vice versa made me skeptical. My views were rather apparent, most notably on a school field trip when I announced them. A teacher, who had recently proposed to another teacher in our school asked us students sitting at the front (is it surprising that you could always find me towards the front of the bus?) , "What do you guys think about marriage, is it a good idea?" -- I think he was more or less being silly, looking for our excitement and encouragement. Everyone supplied that but me, who stated that I didn't believe in it. At least not for myself. Seems like a bad idea.
Someone got through my wall.
And now, the scary part is thinking about life without him.
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